' joy

noone update lehx..nvm..i update lorx..recently i was blessed with a new book

" happiness is....a way of mind, a way of life "

chapter 23 : happiness is learning to accept the past

there may be a question.. " i thot we mus learn to deal with our past and forget about it..pst always say forgive and forget mahx.."

but in this chapter, Dr Bernard says : "you'll never find lasting happiness unless you learn to make peace with ur past. you need to learn how to interpret your own personal history in a positive way"

what is kept in our memories are classified into two cat : victories, disappointments

victories
whenever you look back into your victories..it always bring a smile to ur face..it reminds you as an overcomer..isn't it?

for me, when i look into past victories..an example my O'level...i managed to pass with 19points when my standard is usually 27 points..and now that is what pushes me to study hard in poly..because i know i'm overcomer in my studies..

disappointments
this is one thing that zuzhang had been teachin in cg isn't it? even in church, this topic had been taught over and over again..when problems arises, wil you look into ur victories or ur disappointments first? for many of us..its disappointment...

for me, the biggest disappointment comes from my family..whenever someting happens in the family..i will automatically look into the disappointments..the hurts i've went thru..the pain they inflicted on me..trust me..when u start lookin into your disappointments again, it jus makes the wound hurt more...

when you constantly look back into your disapointments in the past, its like puttin urself into a quicksand..you'' jus sink and sink into depression..when start to realise you're sinkin into depression you'l panic..and when you do so, the faster you'll sink..right? so what's the escape??

to entrust God with ur past and move on!! this may be somethin everyone know..but by accepting what had been and trusting God with what will be is ur key to start the engine and move on with the journey!

i always think that i've dealt with my problems..with my past..when someone ask me to deal with my past, i'll jus say " i've done so already" but i realise i have not fully made peace with my past.. yes, i may have forgive the people who have hurt me, the things they've done to me. BUT i refuse to look back into the disappointments and share it with others because when i do so, there's stil an anger that will arise..peace is not reached..

don't ever think that God jus wants to share ur joy with you...that God will be irritated with all ur burdens and problems..NO! God is out heavenly Father who listens to His children, shower them with His unconditional love, comfort them with His warm arms! share with God ur problems! the disappointmet that people brought to you in the past, the death of ur little hamster, everything!

a little secret : u know..i love to watch drama series..jap larx, korean, taiwan..i jus watch..and i will cry and cry because of the sad ending...after that when i do my quiet time, i will tell God about it..tell God how sad i felt because of the show..that this person is so poor thing and all...shh...don tel anyone...
lastly, here's a verse to ponder

deu 4:30-31
when trouble comes and all these awful things happen to you, in future days you will came back to God, your God, and listen obediently to what he says. God, your God, is above all a compassionate God. in the end he will not abandon you, he will not bring you to ruin, he won't forget the covenant with your ancestors which he swore to them.